There are several ways to say it, but they all end up here: I'm trying to find my purpose.
In reality, what many people are saying is, I'm trying to find what feels right.
I know there are terms like snowflake or coward that are thrown around when we talk about people feeling in 2021, but I'm not talking about being flaky with your feelings or adapting your feelings to whatever crowd is the loudest about their agenda.
What I'm referring to is that gut feeling that says This is what I'm supposed to be doing with my life.
Why do some people discover that gut feeling and others wander around in life questioning if they'll ever find it? Because the people who discover it stopped looking for it.
I didn't say they quit their jobs and waited until an angel appeared with a massive Thus sayeth the Lord... moment. I said they stopped looking for their purpose.
So how do you stop looking for purpose to discover it? Stop trying to determine your value, and instead add value to others.
When someone is trying to find what feels right as the equivalence of their purpose, they are usually trying to find what makes them feel valued. However, my experience has been that the more I tried to find what made me feel valued, the more exhausted and incomplete I felt. It wasn't until I shifted my focus to adding value to others that I began to feel my own worth.
Luke 6:38 (NIV) Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”
Jesus' words echo loudly anytime I'm looking for something that I feel I'm lacking. Give that thing, and that thing will be given to you. With the measure that you use (or give) that thing, it will be measured (or given) back to you. I've worked as a graphic designer, television producer, furniture salesman, an office manager, a construction site photographer, a delivery driver, a chicken fryer, a restaurant manager, a business consultant, and the list goes on and on. Do you know where I found my purpose? In a local church's youth group. Serving teenagers whose lives were messy and complicated, and who could not repay me for the time and effort invested into them. The purpose was to add value to their lives without expecting anything in return. That was where I had that gut feeling that I was supposed to introduce real people to the real Jesus. That was where I had that gut feeling that I was supposed to start a church. That was where I had that gut feeling that I was supposed to pastor others. That's where I had that gut feeling that I was supposed to lead others to grow. But do you know what I was until my purpose was discovered? A graphic designer, television producer, furniture salesman, an office manager, a construction site photographer, a delivery driver, a chicken fryer, a restaurant manager, a business consultant, and the list goes on and on... Before you quit your job to go pursue what may or may not be your purpose, or before you give up on it altogether, ask yourself this question: What am I doing that adds value to people? That could unlock that gut feeling that you've been desiring. It doesn't have to be working with teenagers at a local church. That was where I had my gut feeling. Maybe for you it's coaching people in their fitness goals, or teaching people how to play the guitar, or helping people with their taxes, and the list goes on and on... It could be anything. But, until you shift your focus from your own value to adding value to others, you'll keep living in a cycle of unfulfillment - looking, but never finding that thing that you were designed to do - that thing that adds value to others.